Top 8 Essential Communication Strategies That Work

Hey there! Welcome back. Am sure all of us are aware of phrases and words like public speaking, impromptu, spontaneous talk, and on-the-spot talks, and somehow for majority of the people there is some sort of inherent fear stuck with these words. Don't you think so?

I often come across conversations where people had shared how scared and nervous they were when they were caught off guard to share something related to a topic being discussed, introduce themselves, or just were part of a simple Q&A exercise. Spontaneous speaking often results in quite a few butterflies in the stomach. 

The most anxious moment is the moment when you are asked to address a bigger audience who especially come in to listen to you. In their head, you are like a "Guru" that they have come to gain some knowledge from. This becomes an added pressure for the speaker. I have gone through this and I know exactly how it feels. 

Getting Comfortable With The Reality of Speaking

Did you ever realize that spontaneous speaking or impromptu talking is far more common than planned speaking?. Think about it. How many times do you really "prepare" yourself for some random, spontaneous conversation? You don't right!. Impromptu conversation or talking happens all the time and sometimes when you are the chosen one to talk or share something, anxiety takes over, correct.?

Anxiety Is Not Bad

The other day I was reading a very interesting article that said there was a study done from Chapman University that covered the top fears people had and guess what?. Amongst the top fears like terror attacks, ID theft, public speaking was one of the top fears people listed. The reason I could think is because of the level of anxiety that comes along with it but hey you don't have to live with that fear and anxiety because anxiety is something that can be managed. 

Infact, anxiety isn't that bad. It can give probably give us the needed push to focus better. The key is to manage it so it doesn't overwhelm us. Here is a compilation of the top 5 strategies or tips that really worked for me and helped me communicate better especially in public forums.

1. Acknowledge Your Anxiety

Anxiety will not shy away from announcing its arrival. You would know it when you feel those butterflies in your stomach, feel a bit warmer than usual, sweaty than usual. All you need to do is say " Hi! I know you are here and you will pass. I know I am nervous which is normal". Once you grade it as normal, you will see how fast the anxiety will start to decrease. Simply acknowledging your anxiety can help you stay grounded.

2. Treat Speaking as a Conversation

I was asked to speak at an event as one of the primary speakers. I somehow felt that I need to perform, just like how you perform on a stage. I guess this is where we all go wrong where we start to perceive it as a performance vs just a conversation. You don't have to use jargons to make yourself sound intelligent or seem like a guru. Just use simple, conversational language.Ask questions, treat the audience like you are having a conversation with friends. This not only makes it easier for you but also makes your audience feel more involved.

3. Forget The Future, Stay In The Present

You might often find yourself thinking about all the negative outcomes before hitting that stage. All the What-ifs will start to surround you all of a sudden. What if I mess up? What if they don't like what I say?. The remedy is simple. Just stay in the present moment this will help to cut-off the supply of the constant stream of negative thoughts. 

4. Don't Block Your Own Way

Sometimes, we can be our own worst enemies by putting unnecessary expectations upon ourselves. Expectation to be perfect, to give the right answers, to be known for years as the guru. But striving for perfection can actually get in the way. Instead, allow yourself to be simple and authentic. 

5. Threat Vs Opportunity

Another helpful tip is to change your perspective around how you see spontaneous speaking opportunities. Take it as an opportunity for your growth and to help others grow. By sharing your perspective and the audience sharing their thoughts with you, it's a win-win growth opportunity for both. Both of you are learning new things, and new perspectives. 

6. Listen and Respond

Ask yourself, why are you on the stage today, what is your objective? The answer is a simple one; you are there as a communicator to serve your audience. You can achieve this objective only when you start to listen as this would allow you to respond appropriately and have a conversation with your audience.

7. The Power of Humor

Humor is a strong tool for breaking ice. Remember to use it judiciously as it might backfire if your humor comes across as being judgemental or biased. Why not crack a joke on yourself which usually is the safest bet. 

8. Asking Spontaneous Questions For Better Engagement

If you're the one asking questions, remember the "power of why." Asking why a few times can help you get to the heart of the matter and uncover deeper insights. Another strategy is to ask for advice. For example, "What advice would you give someone in this situation?" This approach often yields more authentic and thoughtful responses.

Conclusion: Spontaneous speaking doesn't have to be scary. With a few simple techniques, you can manage your anxiety and turn these impromptu moments into opportunities. 

With practice, you'll find that spontaneous speaking becomes easier and even enjoyable. 

I hope my dear readers you found this article helpful. If there are any other techniques that you would like to share, feel free to comment and share. 

Love and Blessings,

Mama HealthNut