We all have insecurities, whether they are physical, related to finances, or in relationships. Physical insecurities can include things like height, weight, or unique features. Financial insecurities can stem from a lack of resources. It's also common to feel insecure about material possessions, such as cars or clothes, especially when comparing yourself to others. No matter the source of the insecurity, it's important to address it, especially in the context of relationships. So, today I want to share some tips for overcoming relationship insecurities.
Tip #1: Don't judge or compare your current relationship with the previous ones:
Just because your past girlfriend or boyfriend or spouse whatever you're into cheated on you; doesn't mean that the current one is cheating on you. Nothing is going to potentially kill a relationship by making the current girlfriend boyfriend or spouse pay for the deeds of your past partner.Tip #2: Don't confuse imagination with reality
When we start getting insecure we start imagining some crazy things and we start reading into everything. For example, you could literally freak out if your partner didn't text back in 5 minutes. In your head it could play as that he or she's definitely cheating on you. I know because I have been there. I have been like the super freaky paranoid one who would start reading into everything. The best way is to encourage open and honest communication from the start but you have to start doing it when things are good and not when things have gone bad because of your overly imaginative mind.Tip #3: Stop trying to mind-read
Stop trying to read your partner's mind. The reality is you can't mind read and no nobody can. Unnecessary mind-reading again could lead to wrong perceptions and doubts.Tip #4: Relationships also needs room to breathe
Think of a relationship as a tree a sapling when it's new it's fresh, you plant that sapling what do you do?. You nurture it, you give it water, you give it some soil, you give it sunshine, you give it room to breathe. If you were constantly standing over top of that tree waiting and asking it to grow, what do you think will happen? You're going to smother it and the same thing happens to relationshipsTip #5: Relationships are not always roses and puppies
Tip#6: Do not sneak into their phone
Resist the urge to sneak into their phone or look through text messages. Don't break into Facebook, don't go looking into emails. Once you reach that point- the insecurity point at which you feel the need to Snoop; you'll never stop because you'll never trust them. From here on your relationship will start to go downhill. Trust your instincts instead. We all have them. If your instinct is telling you that something is a little bit off then ask but don't Snoop.
Tip#8: Relationships are supposed to feel good
When in a relationship; you are supposed to feel better being with this person. If it comes to a point where it is becoming more of a chore, a feeling of being trapped, feeling of not being able to flourish, chances are it's not the right person and it's time to have a hard discussion. Speak your heart out. Communication is the key. May be your partner is not aware of the extent of discomfort and pain you feel while being in this relationship. If things still don't improve then probably moving away is the right choice. It will suck, absolutely going to be devastating, and will hurt for a while but being in a relationship that is constantly giving you the aches - a reality check needs to be done.
Insecurities -we all have them but managing them and knowing how to handle them when it comes to a relationship is a key component to you having a happy healthy and successful relationship.
My dear readers, if you liked the content or would like to share more tips, feel free to drop a comment.
Love and Blessings,
Mama HealthNut
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